Aphorisms and quotes about anger. “Anger is short-term madness” psychological training Short-term anger

Anger is an absolute weakness; It is known that weak creatures are most susceptible to it: children, women, old people, the sick, etc.
F. Bacon

Anger is a passion, however, if not humbled and not healed, it turns into bodily suffering.
Apollonius of Tyana

Anger is short-term madness, so control your passion or it will control you.
Horace

Anger is not love, it is short-lived...
M. Gorky

The anger of a fool is in his words, the anger of a wise man is in his deeds.
Arabic proverb

Anger is the most feminine and childish of vices. - “However, it also occurs in husbands.” - “Of course, because husbands also have a feminine or childish character.”
Seneca

In weak souls, the possibility of causing pain leads to a more severe attack of anger, the more painful the awareness of one’s own weakness. Therefore, women are more angry than men, the sick are more angry than the healthy, the old are more angry than the young, and the poor are more prosperous.
Plutarch

If two people parted in anger, it means they had too close a relationship.
Paul Valéry

Anger makes more courageous only those who, without anger, did not even know what courage was.
Seneca

Anger comes to us often, but more often we come to it.
Seneca

We all remain angry longer than we feel the pain caused to us.
Seneca

We are not angry at someone whom we consider beyond our reach for revenge.
Aristotle

There are always plenty of reasons for anger, but rarely good ones.
George Savile, Marquess of Halifax

Anger is blinding, but... unfortunately, it does not paralyze the tongue.
Laszlo Ferecki

They kill not with anger, but with laughter.

The purpose of anger is the rapid violent destruction of any obstacle.
Alfred Adler

To fall into anger means to take out the mistakes of another on oneself.
Alexander Pop

A fool will immediately show his anger, but a prudent person hides his insult.
King Solomon – Proverbs 12, 16

Fear the wrath of a patient man.
John Dryden

We all boil at different temperatures.
Ralph Emerson

Feel free to lose your temper if there is no other way out.
Janusz Wasilkowski

When you lose your temper, don't mince words.
Marian Karczmarczyk

Know how to slam the door so that no one hears.
Konstantin Eliseev

The best medicine against anger is delay.
Seneca

If you are angry, then before you speak, count to ten; if very angry - up to a hundred.
Thomas Jefferson

If you are angry, count to ten, and then speak; If you are very angry, count to one hundred and say nothing.

If you are angry, count to four; if you are very angry, curse.
Mark Twain

If I knew what I was so angry about, I wouldn't be so angry.
Minion McLaughlin

How I would like all people to always be good and friendly, but, unfortunately, this is impossible. In some cases, it can be difficult to manage your emotions, especially when there are so many irritating factors around.

The main types of stimuli that cause us to react with anger:

• Unsatisfied need, desire (for example, I want warmth, but I don’t get it, or I want to get there quickly, but there are traffic jams along the way, etc.)
• Violation of our “boundaries” (they stepped on our feet in public transport or raised their voice at us, etc.).

Anger is a natural reaction to these stimuli. But sometimes outbursts of anger go beyond all boundaries and manifest themselves in the form of aggressive, uncontrollable behavior.

Uncontrolled outbursts of anger and aggression can be very dangerous both for the person himself and for the people around him.

Stages of increasing feelings of anger:

1. Mild dissatisfaction
2. Irritation
3. Anger
4. Fury
5. The heat of passion.

Our anger begins with slight discontent, which we can completely control. And if it does not discharge at earlier stages, then it can result in rage or passion, when we are practically unable to control ourselves.

An uncontrollable outburst of anger may indicate that a person did not pay attention to the manifestation of lighter forms of this feeling in himself to such an extent that it turned into affect.

Mild dissatisfaction can only manifest itself within us, but anger, rage and affect become very noticeable to others and are very often expressed in aggressive actions.

Anger and aggression, what's the difference?

Anger is a feeling that a person experiences. And aggression is already an action that is aimed at causing harm in order to get something for oneself or to defend oneself.

When we experience anger, we have a choice - to express it through an aggressive action towards another person, not to express it at all, or to express it in a way that does not harm anyone.

But if a person’s anger has reached a state of passion, then he seems to be deprived of this choice, and in this case, most likely he will begin to commit aggressive actions.

If you have a problem with uncontrollable outbursts of anger, then it is important to figure out whether you only have uncontrollable outbursts of anger or aggression. That is, you cannot control your feeling or your behavior under the influence of anger?

After all, our feelings arise on their own; we cannot control their occurrence, we can only prevent them. But we can control the ways of expressing them and our behavior under the influence of these feelings. Or at least you can learn it.

What is important to know about aggression and anger?

There are several types of aggression:

• Active (open) aggression (insults, raising your voice, blaming, uninvited criticism, physical violence, etc.)
• Passive (hidden) aggression (being late, sabotaging some joint business with another person, showing resentment, refusing to talk to a person, sarcasm, etc.)
• Aggression directed at oneself (can be expressed in the form of causing some kind of harm to oneself, in a lack of care for oneself, about one’s comfort and health, in the form of feelings of guilt and shame, self-criticism, etc.).

Aggression can be expressed both through words and through actions and behavior. Sometimes aggression can be “displaced”, i.e. when our aggression is actually directed at one person, and we express it to another person (or animal, object, etc.) whom we consider safer for ourselves (for example, I’m angry at my mother, but I express aggression that is actually case to mom, to everyone else except mom).

We can be motivated to act aggressively not only by anger, but also by other feelings - for example, resentment, fear, powerlessness, envy, etc.

Some psychological causes of excessive and uncontrollable anger in a person:

1. You are not aware of some of your needs, and it is constantly not being satisfied (for example, you do not understand that you are constantly overworking, and you really need rest, etc.).
2. You do not notice or monitor the regular violation of your personal boundaries in relationships with other people. As a result, your irritation accumulates and periodically results in an outburst of uncontrollable anger.
3. Anger is your family habit that you “adopted” from your dad, mom or other significant person. If you watched your parent periodically “explode” from childhood, then you may have internalized this behavior and now unknowingly use it in your adult life.
4. Anger for you is your favorite way of getting what you want. If you believe, for example, that if you don't yell at the other person, you won't get anywhere. Or you don’t know how to ask for what you need, instead you get annoyed with the other person, trying to get what you need from him in this way.
5. Anger is your reaction to someone else’s behavior that you do not allow yourself to do, or you deny that you do it too (for example, you get angry when other people are late because you yourself would never allow yourself to be late, or because you yourself periodically you are late for something, but do not notice this behavior in yourself).
6. Your feelings of inferiority, worthlessness, and “badness” can be covered up by outbursts of aggression. Which acts as a defense against strong feelings of shame.
7. Your lack of a sense of basic security, “basic trust in the world.” When you consider the world a very dangerous place for you, and all people as hostile, then you can have a lot of aggression and anger, which serve as protection for you.
8. You may experience periodic outbursts of intense anger because there is a person next to you who unconsciously forbids himself to feel anger. If you have strong sensitivity by nature, then you may feel the unconscious anger of the person who is next to you. But then you only have outbursts of anger when communicating with a specific person. And if you have attacks of anger in different circumstances and when communicating with different people, then most likely the reason is something else.

What good can outbursts of anger and aggression do for you?

• Aggression allows you to “control” other people and get from them what you want (for example, the husband does not throw out the garbage, his wife yelled at him - the husband went to throw out the garbage).
• Anger is like an excuse for you for some behavior that you consider “bad” for yourself. That is, in a fit of anger, you do something that deep down you want, but do not allow yourself to do (for example, ending a relationship that you did not allow yourself to complete, raising the price of your services, saying “no” to someone who you cannot refuse the usual condition, etc.).
• Anger and aggression can help you “escape” from some of your desires that you consider unacceptable, dangerous or shameful for yourself (for example, a woman is very angry with her male colleague, but in fact behind the anger lies her sexual attraction to him and etc.).
• Anger and aggressive behavior can help you look influential, strong, or even dangerous person in the eyes of other people. In this way, you can gain authority through aggressiveness, or provide yourself with a sense of security.
• Anger and aggression can help you regulate distance in a relationship (for example, when a partner gets too close to you, you find this level of intimacy intolerable, then you may unconsciously push him away through aggressive behavior).

What unpleasant consequences do uncontrolled outbursts of aggression lead to?

Despite the fact that people can receive some benefit for themselves from their anger and anger, aggressive behavior can contribute to destruction meaningful relationships, interfere with competent acceptance important decisions and negatively impact a person's life.

Sudden outbursts of anger can interfere with work and career building. If a person can suddenly “break down” at any moment, enter into an aggressive conflict where the problem can be solved in a calm dialogue, then this does not add anything to his authority.

Other people may have a negative attitude towards someone who has poor self-control when angry, perceive such a person as “dangerous”, and avoid him. What can cause a person with uncontrollable outbursts of anger some inconvenience or even upset him.

Also, such a problem can lead a person to the point that he will use physical or psychological violence in relationships with his loved ones. Thus, he will destroy them, his relationships with them and himself, thereby accumulating his feelings of guilt.

A person who has a lot of aggression inside, and who has poor control over it, has to spend a lot of his energy either on external manifestations of his aggression, or on trying to keep it within himself, to “suppress”.

Should we strive to suppress our anger?

Constant suppression of anger does not give anything good, because... on the contrary, it contributes to the appearance of outbursts of uncontrollable rage later. To some level a person can suppress his anger, but at some point an “explosion” will inevitably occur when the person reaches a state of passion and cannot control himself.

Suppressing anger makes sense if it is only a temporary measure, if a person understands why he is doing it and chooses in a specific situation to deal with his anger later.

But since this method of constantly dealing with your anger and aggression is quite dangerous, it is better to learn to express your aggression in such a way as not to destroy anyone. And deal with the reasons for your feelings of anger.

What to do with uncontrollable outbursts of anger?

1. Check your health, because... Anger outbursts can be a symptom of various physical illnesses.
2. If your health is fine, then you need to analyze the reasons for your anger or aggression, because There can be many possible reasons. You can try to do this either on your own, by reading, for example, in this article, possible causes of outbursts of anger and observing for yourself which of them are about you. Or together with, contacting him for consultation.
3. Think about what good things you get from uncontrollable outbursts of anger or aggression, and what valuable things you get from your attacks of anger. And then figure out how you can get it in another way, i.e. without aggression.
4. Must be learned and used regularly various ways bodily relaxation, relaxation (breathing techniques, massage, meditation, taking a warm bath, bodily exercises, etc.).
5. To learn to control your aggression, you need to train the following skills:
   Stop your urge to act aggressively the moment you feel angry (stop not the anger itself, but the behavior).
   The skill of “feeling anger and thinking at the same time.”
   Monitor yourself for mild forms of anger (dissatisfaction and irritation) until they turn into rage or a state of “affect”.
6. To avoid sudden outbursts of anger, you need to learn not to accumulate your anger in large quantities. To do this, you need, firstly, to learn to express your anger without showing aggression towards other people and yourself. Secondly, periodically you need to safely “reset” your aggression. That is, express it in a way that will not harm anyone.

Ways to safely release aggression:

• Hit the pillow with a knocker, bat or racket, hit the pear.
• Tearing or crumpling paper, cardboard, Whatman paper, newspaper, etc.
• Throw soft toys and pillows at the wall, imagining that you are throwing them at someone you are angry with.
• Paint your anger or the offender in an unfavorable light, write an angry letter, which you then throw away.
• Stomp your feet, wave your arms, express your aggression through dance, etc.
• Twist a dry towel, bite the rolled towel.
• Scream in the forest or at home into your pillow.
• Express your feelings out loud in a rude manner when no one is listening, etc.

Exercise to develop the skill of “getting angry and thinking at the same time”

A person may be prevented from controlling his aggression by the fact that he cannot think in a fit of anger. Therefore, training the skill of “thinking and being angry at the same time” can be very useful for someone who has problems with uncontrollable outbursts of anger.

This skill can be trained through exercise. But remember that just reading the exercise or even doing it once will not develop the skill. To develop a skill, you need regular, or better yet, daily repetitions of the exercise for at least one or two months.

The essence of the exercise is that at the moment when you are angry, you try to make up in your mind as many options as possible for how you can now express your anger. You need to come up with at least 20 options. While you come up with options, it is important to do nothing, namely think and at the same time feel your anger in your body (i.e. direct your attention to the part of the body where you feel your anger).

To start, you can practice while you're safely releasing your aggression, such as doing a towel squeeze in your home. And then you can try to practice the exercise in different situations own life. Don't quit an exercise if you don't succeed the first time. It's rare that it works out right the first time. If you continue, you will almost certainly develop the skill of “thinking and being angry at the same time,” which will help you control the way you express your aggression in the future.

Take control of your life - Sadhguru

“Fate and character are different
names of the same concept."

RESOURCE OF MENTAL ENERGY
HUMAN LIMITED...
RESULTS AND OTHER STUPIDITY -
EXTRAORDINARY LUXURY...

If you don't waste your precious Life Energy
to labels, criticism, dissatisfaction, reproaches, conflicts,
resentment - she will do something more constructive.
CHOOSE EVERYTHING - THOUGHTS, HABITS, ACTIONS...
CHOOSE CONSCIOUSLY... DON'T PROVOKE THE PSYCHE...

How there are body injuries that are incompatible with health
and life, so is the way of thinking, words, actions,
incompatible with health, and, as a consequence,
and with life...

It is worth accustoming yourself to the fact that:
EVERYTHING AROUND IS FOODS FOR CONSIDERATION,
NOT "I WAS OFFENDED"...
Hear what people say, regardless of words
and intonation. SEPARATE "FLIES" FROM "CUTLETS".
Too much energy goes into the whistle
i.e., on labels and emotions, but on analyzing the situation
this very Precious Energy no longer remains.

“Even in the most difficult and sad experiences there is inherent
treasure - potential for change, INFORMATION.
We ourselves deprive ourselves of this wealth, without leaving
hopes for changes for the better, ignoring
INFORMATION."

So:
LONG LIVE THE CORRECTLY UNDERSTOOD
CAUSE - EFFECT RELATIONSHIP!

Psychologist Elena Nazarenko

There is a well-known formula:
Way of thinking – Way of action – Result...

"Positive thinking means
that you only look at one side
life. You can ignore the other one
side, but the other side won't
ignore you."

#Sadhguru #isha #yoga

When we are irritated and angry,
Essentially, we are offended because
that internal personal nodes
no one will untie us from the outside.

Igor Guberman

Anger is fear manifested.
When you have nothing to fear
you have nothing to be angry about.

Neil Donald Walsh

“Anger is momentary madness.”

Horace

Once a Chinese philosopher was talking with a student about an important skill for a person - to subdue anger in the heart, not allowing oneself to descend into revenge. After listening carefully to the teacher, the student embarrassedly admitted that he was not yet able to forgive his enemies, although he sincerely strives to do so.
“I have a brother,” the student complained, and I would like to forgive him, but I still can’t tear the anger out of my heart.

“I’ll help you,” said the teacher, removing a cracked clay teapot from the shelf. Take this teapot and treat it as you would treat your enemy.
The student, taking the teapot, turned it hesitantly in his hands, not daring to do anything. Then the sage said:
- An old teapot is just a thing, it’s not a person, don’t be afraid to do with it now as you would like to do with your enemy. The student lifted the teapot over his head and threw it forcefully on the floor.

So much so that the teapot shattered into small pieces. The teacher looked at the floor, strewn with fragments of a broken vessel, and said:
- Do you see what happened? Having broken the kettle, you did not get rid of it, but only turned it into many fragments, on which you yourself, or those around you, can cut your feet. Therefore, every time, not finding the strength to throw anger out of your heart, remember these fragments, or better yet, try not to allow cracks to appear where they should not be.

“If you hate, it means you have been defeated.”

Confucius.

Lives and rules in the Universe
not evil and hatred, but the will of kindness.

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1. Exercise “Associations” (5 min). Goal: to provide an opportunity for participants to reflect on the topic of anger and to prepare for further discussion of this topic. Instructions. The trainer writes the word “Anger” on whatman paper and invites participants to name the associations that arise in them when they hear this word. All answers are recorded, without discussion. The trainer thanks the participants, the participants applaud each other for good work.

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2. Mini-lecture “What is anger?” (5 minutes). Trainer information. Anger is considered the most deadly of all sins. Fury, indignation, temper, ardor, impatience, indignation, dissatisfaction, irritation, rage are manifestations of anger. Anger, or anger, is the most dangerous emotion. When you feel angry, you intentionally hurt other people. Anger can arise for various reasons. One of them is frustration (nervous exhaustion), caused by numerous obstacles and obstacles and preventing progress towards the goal. A person's failure to live up to your expectations can make you angry. Anger varies in strength - from mild irritation or annoyance, to rage or rage. Anger can build up gradually, starting with irritation and then slowly intensifying, or it can arise suddenly and manifest itself with maximum force. We need to learn to understand the causes of anger and learn ways to discharge anger.

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3. Exercise “YES or NO” (10 min). When I’m angry, I usually... Manifestation of anger Yes – “+”, no – “-” I fall silent I scream I’m very nervous I try to restrain myself I try to talk about the cause of anger with friends I try to figure out the cause of anger on my own I try to distract myself by reading listening to music How can I improve my way to deal with anger Method Yes – “+”, no – “-” before finding out anything, get a good night’s sleep, be distracted by something extraneous, do something: eat delicious food, sleep, read, talk with loved ones about it , what is happening do not take everything to heart live by the principle: if you can’t change circumstances, change your attitude towards them crumple and tear paper beat a pillow or punching bag water procedures sports games, running count to ten rub plasticine into cardboard or paper write words, that you want to say, crumple them onto paper and throw them away

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4. Discussion and role-playing game “Situations” (10 min). Situations Your actions The teacher said in class today that I’m stupid and probably my parents were like that too: “The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.” Today my teacher accused me of stealing, but I didn’t take anything from anyone. My parents and I were called to school. They took me into the teachers' room, where the director, head teacher, and teachers gathered, and everyone began to insult and humiliate me. My parents don't allow me to be friends with my classmates. Mom scolded me again for the mess in the room. Mom let me go to the disco until 10 o'clock. I arrived on time, but received a slap in the face from my father. My parents told me today that they have decided to get a divorce. They asked who I would live with. Mom and Dad fought a lot with each other today. I sat and didn’t know what to do or how to act.

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5. Exercise “Discharging anger and aggressiveness” (10 min). Trainer information. Metaphorically, anger is a forest fire that can affect large areas if the first small flame or bonfire is not controlled in time. With anger, there is a high level of muscle tension, especially high in the arms, face, neck, shoulders, chest and abdomen. We need to learn relaxation techniques aimed at learning to manage our anger and reduce the level of personal anxiety. B) Exercise “Only paper” (5 min). Instructions. Participants take a sheet of paper and try to use it to depict their state and mood. Paper can be torn and wrinkled. At the coach’s signal, everyone passes on their “mood” - a piece of paper - to their neighbor on the left. He finalizes it and, on a signal, passes it on to the next one again, and so on in a circle. It is advisable that after completing the exercise, only small pieces remain from the sheet of paper. The coach invites the teenagers to make a festive fireworks display out of them. When performing this exercise, aggression decreases and mood improves. C) Exercise “Video camera effect” (10 min). Instructions. Imagine that you are a video camera, but which records not only sound and image, but also records taste, olfactory, and temperature sensations. She registers this, but does not relate to it in any way. Someone stuck out his tongue at the video camera and said, “You fool!” What emotion will the video camera have? No. Because it simply registers what is happening. Exercise. Take a “video camera” (you can roll up a newspaper, or use a hat as a camera) and check if this is so. I'm like a video camera. I observe, I see everything, I record everything, but I don’t react in any way. Emotionless. Just smooth, calm.

Nil inultum remanebit“Nothing goes unpunished.”
Fiat justitia, pereat mundus“Let justice be done, even if the whole world perishes.”
Si vis pacem para bellum- If you want peace, prepare for war.
Consumor aliis inserviendo— Shining on others, burning myself.
Ferro ignique- With fire and sword.
Fuge, late, tace- Run, hide, be silent.
Contra vim mortis non est medicamen in hortis“There is no medicine in the gardens against the force of death.”
Ira furor brevis est—Anger is short-term madness.
Heu quam est timendus qui mori tutus putat- He is terrible who considers death to be good.
In vino veritas— Truth is in wine
Vox populi - vox dei— The eye of the people is the voice of God.
Lupus pilum mutat, non mentem- The wolf changes its fur, not its nature.
Imperare sibi maximum imperium est- Self-control is the highest power.
Qui gladio ferit, gladio perit- He who lifts the sword will die by the sword.
Vox unius, vox nullius- One voice is not a voice.
Gladiator in arena capit consilium— The gladiator makes a decision in the arena.

/Quotes from the series Sword/

Other Latin sayings...

Dum spiro, spero. - While I breathe I hope.
Memento mori. - Memento Mori.
ratio vivendi. - Meaning of life.
Veni, vidi, vici. “I came, I saw, I conquered.”
Vincere aut mori. - Victory or death.
Arbor vitae. — Tree of life.
Pax huic domui. - Peace to this house.
In arte libertas. — There is freedom in art.
Alia tempora. - Times have changed.
Bis vincit, qui se vincit in Victoria. - He who defeats himself wins twice.
Duobus certantibus tertius gaudet. - When two fight, the third rejoices.
Videte et applaudite! - Look and applaud!
Aequalitas haud parit bellum. — Equality does not give rise to war.
Canis mortuus non mordet. — A dead dog doesn't bite.
Cogiti, ergo sum - I think, therefore I exist.
De mortuis nihil nisi bene. “Nothing but good things about the dead.”
Nil permanent sub sole - Nothing lasts forever under the sun.
Docere omnes ambiunt, doceri pene nulli. “Everyone strives to teach, but no one wants to be taught.”
Fas est et ab hoste doceri. “It is also permissible to learn from the enemy.”
Hominem non odi, sed ejus vitia. “I don’t hate a person, but his vices.”
Alma mater - Nursing, beneficent mother.
Suum cuique - To each his own.
O tempora! Oh more! - Oh times! oh morals!
Margaritas ante porcos - Pearls before swine.
Persona non grata - Undesirable person.
Dura lex Sed Lex - The law is harsh, but it is the law.
Vade retro, Satana - Be gone, Satan.
Scientia potentia est - Knowledge is power.
Contra spem spero - I hope without hope.
Divide et impera - Divide and conquer.
Homo homini lupus est - Man is a wolf to man.
Consuetudo est altera natura - Habit is second nature.
Pereat mundus, fiat philosophia - Let the world perish, but let there be philosophy.
Alea jacta est - The die is cast.
Amicus (mihi) Plato, sed magis amica veritas - Plato is my friend, but the truth is dearer.
Ignorantia non est argumentum - Ignorance is not an argument.
Amicus certus in re incerta cernitur - True friend is found to be in the wrong business.
A nullo diligitur, qui neminem diligit - No one loves someone who doesn’t love anyone.
Si vis amari, ama - If you want to be loved, love.