Psychological pressure on people. What is psychological pressure, and how to resist it? Through humiliation to victory

First, analyze the situation, try to objectively assess whether you are really such a despot and tyrant as you think? What makes you think that you put pressure on people? Has anyone around you told you that you are an overly domineering and demanding person? How often do you impose conditions on others? If all of your answers to the above questions have convinced you of your hard-line stance towards others, you really need to reconsider your worldview.

Try to honestly answer your questions: why do you think that the people around you should live according to your orders? Maybe it seems to you that you are smarter than others, that other people do not have the knowledge and life experience that you have? Try to understand and accept the truth that every person has the right to make mistakes, as well as to go through his own life path independently, without someone's direction.

In your desire to put pressure on people and control the situation, your hyper-responsibility is most likely to blame. Surely you feel the whole weight of the world on your shoulders, delve into all sorts of problems, even those that do not concern you. Such a habit often leads to psychological and physiological problems - diseases of the heart and blood vessels, this is reflected in the constant psycho-emotional stress that you experience while trying to manage everything. In this case, the only correct advice is: cultivate a moderate sense of irresponsibility, the ability to let things take their course, and learn to trust the people around you.

Patience, respect and other signs of tact towards others

When you are going to once again put pressure on someone, to take someone into your turn, remember such universal human values ​​as respect, tolerance, love for the people around you. Think about how the habit of using people for your own purposes is contrary to ethical and moral standards.

Imagine the situation in reverse: someone demands that you perform certain actions, despite all your arguments and excuses. How would you characterize his behavior? Personal violence? Enslavement? What can you tell him to justify your reluctance to dance to his music? The fact that you are not obliged to fulfill all his demands just because he wants it so much? Most likely, this is how you will answer him.

Develop a harmonious positive worldview in which there is no place for anger, aggression, envy and others negative emotions. Remember that every person, regardless of what social status he has, is, first of all, a free person who has the right to self-realization, mistakes and mistakes.

Psychological pressure is the influence exerted by one person on other people in order to change their opinions, decisions, judgments, or personal attitudes. It is carried out in ways that are far from being the most honest and correct, from the point of view of humanity. But, unfortunately, anyone can encounter it.

Compulsion

Psychological pressure can manifest itself in various forms. Coercion is one of them. This is the most blatant and unprecedented attempt to influence another person. This method is inherently an unlawful use of mental violence.

From the outside, its use looks like an informational impact on human consciousness. Which may be accompanied by threats of physical violence. But these are extreme cases.

Most often, a moral abuser uses other “trump cards.” This could be his power, money, influential status, compromising data. Some try to destroy their prey. They say words that grind a person’s dignity into powder and trample his self-confidence into the dirt. Actions can also be of a similar nature.

Others follow the tactic of intrusiveness. It consists of deliberate moral torment of a person using various methods.

How to react?

This type of pressure is very difficult to resist. But it is possible (with the proper desire). The most important thing is to clearly define for yourself the goals that the slave is trying to pursue. We need to understand what he wants. And after that do exactly the opposite. Just without letting him know that the confrontation is intentional. He must perceive the confidence of the one he is trying to make a “victim” as a character trait. In the end, the failed moral abuser will leave the person alone. Because he will understand that he will not achieve his intended goal.

But if he is obsessed with her, then he will have to have patience and fortitude. Because the forced person will not just leave behind. Before that, he will try all sorts of methods. If a situation causes too much discomfort, it is better to leave it. In the literal sense of the word - break all contacts. But because of persecution, which may well begin if the captive is fanatical, you can contact the police.

Humiliation

It is also often used to apply pressure. Psychological humiliation is aimed at morally “crushing” a person. Every word that can indicate his inferiority, inferiority and insignificance is used. But how is it possible to influence a person in this way? After all, he, on the contrary, must take any request or order with hostility, becoming angry at what he hears! Yes, that's logical. But in reality it happens differently.

Insults put a person into a state of certain prostration. You can even feel it physically - your temples begin to pound, your breathing quickens, and your heartbeat starts somewhere in the throat. A person is consumed by resentment, mixed with bewilderment, anger, and other adrenaline-inducing feelings.

This is understandable. After all, humiliation seriously affects a person’s well-being. Because self-esteem is the highest moral value. Even in Maslow’s pyramid it is at the fourth level.

So, at the moment when a person finds himself shrouded in a state of resentment, the same aggressor who provoked the incident takes advantage of the opportunity to put pressure on him: “Are you at least able to do this?”

This phrase literally takes you out of your trance. Of course, being in a normal state, a person would instantly dismiss it. It’s only in such a situation that the psychological defense mechanism is activated. At a subconscious level, a person awakens a desire to prove his worth and convince the offender that he was mistaken about him. And he grabs the assignment. But this is what the offender needed.

Confrontation

Since psychological pressure is quite successfully carried out through humiliation, it is necessary to talk about effective way combat this impact.

So, you need to remember that this method only works with those people who are not confident in themselves. A self-sufficient person will only laugh at the attempts of some loser aggressor to influence with groundless insults. They just won't touch him.

Therefore, you need to become such a self-sufficient person. Any rude word should turn into a kind of signal, reminding a person that it is time to activate protection and not succumb to provocations.

Of course, a storm can rage in your soul. But appearance should disarm the aggressor as much as possible. A relaxed, disinterested look, an occasional yawn, a loose pose, a slight grin - this look will hint to him of his unsuccessful attempts to force a person to do something using such a vile method. And when he finishes rambling, you can drop a simple, indifferent phrase that will confuse him: “Have you said everything?” Or the alternative: “I heard you.” Or you can limit yourself to just one word: “Good.” There is no need to completely ignore the offender. After all, he knows that the person is not deaf, which means he hears him. And if he is silent, then, most likely, he simply does not know what to answer. So there must be at least one reaction.

Suggestion and persuasion

This is a more delicate method by which it turns out psychological pressure. Not everyone owns it. After all, you need to be able to influence someone else’s consciousness, provoking an uncritical perception of their attitudes and beliefs.

In addition, such manipulators are masters of words. They are empathetic, observant, and know exactly what needs to be said to this or that person so that he himself, under its influence, will reconstruct his attitudes. Such people skillfully play with the subconscious of the “victim”. They use intonation, apparent friendliness and frankness, empathy and many other semi-conscious ways.

A striking example can be considered the well-known fraudulent online schemes - one-page sites on which some “innovative” method of earning money is colorfully described, which becomes available to the user after he replenishes his own account (later allegedly needed by him) with a certain, “purely symbolic” amount. amount. Such resources are headed by videos, built on the same principle. A certain person first sincerely tells his story about how he came from rags to riches, and then switches to the user - he begins to say that he is worthy better life, and he should think about himself, family, children, parents. He doesn’t lose anything - some five thousand will pay off almost in the first 10 minutes of system activation.

Surprisingly, such psychological pressure works. The words of the “speaker” touch the quick, penetrate the soul, make you believe, motivate. But, naturally, only he benefits from this.

And this is just one example. This also happens very often in life. And if on the Internet you can simply force yourself to close a page, then in reality you have to resist.

Manipulation

Often psychological pressure is exerted on a person through this particular method. Manipulation involves the use of coercive, deceptive, or covert tactics. And if in the case of humiliation or coercion a person understands that he is being attacked, then in this situation he does not.

A manipulator who promotes his interests at the expense of other people knows how to hide his true face, aggressive behavior and bad intentions. He is well aware of the psychologically vulnerable places of the “victim”. He is also cruel and indifferent. The manipulator does not worry that his actions may harm someone he perceives as his “pawn.”

Psychological pressure is exerted on a person by manipulation different ways. Psychologist Harriet Breaker, for example, noted five main ones:

• Positive reinforcement is false sympathy, charm, praise, apology, approval, attention, flattery and fawning.
• Negative - promises of getting rid of an unpleasant, difficult and problematic situation.
• Partial reinforcement is encouraging a person to persevere, ultimately leading him to failure. A striking example- casino. The player may be allowed to win several times, but in the end he will lose every penny, getting bogged down in the excitement.
• Punishment - intimidation, scolding, an attempt to impose a feeling of guilt.
• Traumas are one-time outbursts of anger, hysteria, insults, as well as other examples of frightening behavior aimed at frightening the victim and convincing her of the seriousness of the manipulator’s intentions.

There are also a lot of other ways. But, however, no matter what they are, the manipulator’s goal is always the same - to gain personal gain and achieve his goal.

How to avoid manipulation?

This question also deserves a brief answer. There are a lot of recommendations and advice on how to resist psychological pressure carried out through manipulation. And no matter which of them a person listens to, he will always have to do the same thing - keep the situation under control.

He needs self-confidence, self-control, healthy distrust and attentiveness. It is very important to notice the beginning of manipulation in time. It's easy - a person will feel how weak spots there is pressure.

The habit of analyzing what is happening will not hurt. And we’re not just talking about studying the behavior of potential manipulators. A person, in addition, needs to take a closer look at his goals, dreams and plans. Do they really belong to him? Or were these guidelines once imposed on him, and is he now following them? You need to think carefully about all this.

How to resist psychological pressure? You need to become critical. And visually unapproachable. Manipulators always count on quick results. You can't give it to them. To every suggestion or request you need to answer: “I’ll think about it.” And it really doesn't hurt to think about it. In a calm atmosphere, without any pressure, you will be able to “feel” the request from the inside and understand whether the person really needs help, or whether he is just trying to benefit for himself.

And if a decision is made to refuse, you must express it in a firm form, showing character. Hearing an uncertain “No, probably...”, the manipulator will begin to “break” the person. This cannot be allowed.

By the way, you don’t need to be shy about showing your emotions to the “puppeteer”. This will expose him, and he will leave behind. You can get by with a simple phrase like: “I don’t owe you anything, and your persistence makes me feel ungrateful!”

Turning to the law

It is important to note that even the criminal code contains information about psychological pressure on a person. It would not be superfluous to open the Criminal Code of the Russian Federation and scroll to Article No. 40. It is called “Physical or mental coercion.” And this is a direct reference to what was said at the very beginning. Only here everything is more serious.

We are talking about crimes committed by people under pressure from an aggressor. The first paragraph of the article states that harm caused to interests protected by law is not considered an offense. But only if the person could not control his actions at that moment. Let's say he was forced at gunpoint, or holding one of his relatives at gunpoint.

But what if it was psychological pressure on a person? Article No. 40 in this case is referred to the previous one, number 39. The issue regarding criminal liability for committing a crime under mental influence is resolved taking into account its provisions.

Article No. 39 is called “Urgent Necessity.” It says that a crime is not such if it was committed to eliminate a danger that directly threatens a person or other people.

However, this is not all that is said in the Criminal Code. Psychological pressure is also mentioned in Article 130. It is noted there that humiliation of the dignity and honor of another person, expressed in extreme form, is punishable by a fine of up to 40,000 rubles, or three months’ salary. In especially severe cases, 120 hours of community service or 6 months of correctional labor are prescribed. The maximum penalty is restriction of freedom for up to 1 year. Very serious consequences of psychological pressure.

An article of the Criminal Code of the Russian Federation also states that insult expressed publicly (through the media, in a speech, in a video message, etc.) is punishable by a double fine. The maximum penalty is 2 years of restriction of freedom.

In the case of children

Psychological pressure on a child is an even more serious topic. Everyone knows how weak and fragile the consciousness of children (most of them, anyway) is. They are extremely easy to influence. And we are not talking about healthy pressure, which cannot even be called such (“If you don’t put away the toys, I won’t talk to you” - influence through guilt). This refers to real coercion to do something, an attack on a child (psychological).

The pressure of the Criminal Code of the Russian Federation in this case is defined as “Failure to fulfill educational obligations.” This is article number 156. Moreover, the provisions apply not only to parents, but also to employees of educational, social, educational and medical organizations. Cruel treatment is what psychological pressure is equated to. The article also prescribes punishments. This could be a fine of 100,000 rubles, compulsory work (440 hours), elimination of the right to hold a certain position, or imprisonment for three years.

But, of course, cases rarely come to trial. The article of the Criminal Code characterizes psychological pressure in a specific way, but in life it occurs in a different manifestation.

Many parents simply unceremoniously interfere in the child’s space, cruelly control his every step, and force him to do something he doesn’t like (going to a boxing class when the child wants to dance, for example). Some are sure that if you point out his shortcomings, he will correct them. But that's not true. This does not work with all adults who have a stronger psyche and intelligence. And the child will completely withdraw into himself, beginning to doubt his own strengths and abilities, and constantly feeling guilty for no apparent reason. Parents, exerting pressure, thus reflect their own experiences and fears. But in the end they become enemies of their child, not allies. Therefore, issues of education must be approached very responsibly. Birth and personal formation becoming a new member of society is a huge responsibility and serious work.

Labor sphere

Finally, I would like to talk a little about psychological pressure at work. After all, most often it is in the labor sphere that a person encounters this phenomenon.

You need to understand first of all that the organization in which a person works is just a structure. In which everyone takes their place and performs certain tasks. And the relationship between colleagues should be appropriate, businesslike. If someone suddenly tries to put pressure on a person to serve (substitute, do dirty work, go on a day off), you need to refuse with dignity - somewhat coldly, but as politely as possible. You cannot put the interests of other people above your own. Especially if they are brave enough to make such demands.

The only exceptions are those cases when a colleague really needs help. By the way, there is no need to be afraid of gossip, rumours, gossip or attempts to “sit on”. A person must remember that he is a professional first and foremost. His skills and productivity will not become worse from evil tongues. And if he is interested in the topic, you can always explain it to your boss.

It is much worse if the “pressures” come directly from the boss. And there are some leaders who are only happy to put psychological pressure on a person. The article of the Criminal Code of the Russian Federation here, of course, will not serve as informational support, but the provisions of the Labor Code will.

Most often, ordinary workers are faced with persistent “requests” from their boss to submit an application for resignation of their own free will. This contradicts Article 77 of the Labor Code of the Russian Federation, since such actions exclude the employee’s freedom of expression. And a person has every right to contact the prosecutor’s office to open a labor dispute, or directly to court. But evidence obtained without breaking the law will be required. By the way, they are needed in any case, no matter what the complaint is.

To summarize, I would like to say that the topic of psychological pressure is indeed very detailed and interesting. It contains many more nuances and important points. But, if desired, you can familiarize yourself with them individually. Knowledge of this nature is never superfluous.

There are certain methods, well known to psychologists, that allow you to make any person your like-minded person, friend, or simply push you to the decision you need, but none of these methods will tell you how to psychologically break a person, just how to make him your supporter.

1. Make it a habit to ask.

This rule is also called effect. Once upon a time he needed the approval of a person who was negatively disposed towards him. To win this man over to his side, Franklin very politely asked him for a book. And when he received the book, he thanked him even more politely. This allowed him to break the man and both became friends.

You've probably seen something similar in your life too. If a person has done you a favor, he will do it much more willingly next time than someone who owes you something. The reason for this behavior is simple. If you ask for something, it means that in the future you yourself will respond to the request.

2. Demand more

You can also find this method called “door to the forehead.” First, you need to ask a person for much more than you actually want to get from him. Or if we're talking about about specific things, you can ask for something completely ridiculous, this will allow break a person. Usually such a request is answered with a refusal. After a refusal, you can safely ask for what you needed in the first place. Because of the awkwardness that has arisen, the person most likely will not refuse you, provided that the request is reasonable.

3. Contact by name

According to , addressing your interlocutor by name is extremely important. For every person, his own name is the most pleasant combination of sounds. Therefore, when a person is addressed by name, this immediately puts the interlocutor at ease on a subconscious level and makes him experience positive emotions. You manage to break a person and turn him on himself.

A similar effect is observed when a person is addressed with an indication of his rank, title, or rank. How you behave towards a person determines how he will treat you. By calling someone a friend, you can count on the appearance of friendly feelings in return.

4. Flattery

It’s kind of clear what it is. But there are some rules. Flattery cannot be false. If you tell an outright lie, flattery will do harm, not good. According to researchers, people strive to ensure that their thoughts and feelings coincide. For example, speaking flattery to a person with a lot of pride, while demonstrating sincerity, will only get you approval. Your flattery will coincide with the person’s opinion of himself. The same technique with a person with low self-esteem will work exactly the opposite, because psychologically break a person in this case it is possible only by confirming his own thoughts about himself.

5. Reflection

The reflection effect also has another name – mimicry. This effect is often used unconsciously, but it works no worse for it. By copying someone's behavior, manners, gestures, you can achieve favor and psychologically break a person.

People in general tend to treat better those who are similar to them. Moreover, if a person was copied, the effect is somewhat broader - it becomes easier and more pleasant for the person to communicate with other interlocutors. A similar effect is observed as when addressing a person by name.

6. Take advantage of your opponent's fatigue

A tired person is more susceptible to other people's words, requests, and statements. Psychologically break a person It is possible at the moment of his fatigue, at the moment of a low level of mental energy. If you ask a tired person for a favor, they are more likely to agree, rather than having to make the more difficult decision to refuse the request. Moreover, the next day the request will most likely be fulfilled, since a promise was made.

7. Inconvenient requests

To later ask for something important and big, first ask the person for something small and simple. Having once responded to your request, in the future the person will be more willing to make contact. This method allows you to break a person only if there is a certain interval between your requests - at least a couple of days.

8. Listening skills

You shouldn't rub someone's mistakes in their face. You can only get negative response. If you don’t know how to psychologically break a person, first listen to him, try to understand him. Most likely, you will be able to find common ground, even if in general your opinions are opposite. First, agree with your interlocutor, then he will listen to your arguments much more carefully.

9. Repeat after your interlocutor

The easiest way break a person- this is to show your understanding of his point of view. Try to paraphrase his words. By repeating the same thing, but in your own words, you show your complete approval. This technique is called reflective listening. Psychotherapists widely use this technique in their practice.

This technique is easiest to use when talking to a friend. Listen to the phrase, and then repeat it, like your own question - this way the person will see that he is being listened to and will feel comfortable. He will listen to your opinion much more willingly.

10. Nodding

By nodding we usually show that we agree with the interlocutor. Break a man you can simply nod during the conversation. This is another of the effects of mimicry. If you nod during the conversation, listening to the position of your interlocutor, it will be much easier for you to later convince him that you are right.

Among the many various options negotiation scenario, a variant of psychological suppression of the interlocutor, one of the most common. It is used especially often when the position of one side is obviously superior to the other, or as a continuation of insistence on one’s own, after a soft position of communication. In the first case, this is usually active pressure from the very beginning of the dialogue between people, excessive self-confidence, pre-prepared arguments in one’s favor, the use of the third voice mode - loud, clear, expressive speech, with an emphasis on the main points, with frequent interruption of the interlocutor, a grin or even a laugh. over his words. All this suppresses the interlocutor, makes him worry and nervous, doubt himself, feel discomfort and aggression on your part.

Very often, this type of negotiation gives a positive result, but not in the case when your interlocutor behaves similarly, and therefore it is fundamental for him not to give in to you, even to the detriment of his own interests. And also if your dialogue does not solve the problem immediately, then the person may change his mind and most likely will do just that, despite the initial concession. This can also be called the Chinese “yes”, which later turns out to be the word “no”. If we consider the second option for using this method of putting pressure on the interlocutor, then it is also very often used, especially in law enforcement agencies. You've probably watched films where the concept of an evil and a good policeman was often used. Two people play opposing roles, thereby forcing the person to agree to more lenient conditions. This really has a wonderful effect on the human psyche, and this technique can be used independently.

You can start with a soft position, and if they do not yield to you, switch to a hard one, with psychological suppression of the interlocutor, using the methods that I described above. Or, on the contrary, you can start with a hard position, suppress your interlocutor until a certain point, and then take a soft position, all with the same conditions beneficial to you. For your interlocutor, this will be an excellent alternative to resolve a tense situation, to remove the burden that you have placed on him. All these methods give positive results, especially with insecure people who are not used to losing. The effectiveness of psychological pressure on the interlocutor is, of course, quite high, but it is worth remembering that people really don’t like being pressured, no matter what their character.

If you are negotiating a deal or signing an agreement, after which your interlocutor will fade into the background, then using pressure will be appropriate. Any showdowns and verbal skirmishes can also be effectively resolved by putting pressure on the opponent. But if your goal is long-term cooperation with people on whom your well-being will depend, then I do not recommend using psychological pressure in this case. You can demonstrate high self-confidence, people like it, especially women who see a man, first of all, as a strong male.

There is no need to show aggression or disrespect for your interlocutor; this is bad for long-term cooperation. The confidence alone that you demonstrate can overwhelm your interlocutor, especially if you have a lot of arguments in your favor and, again, use the third voice mode, that is, a loud and clear voice, with an emphasis on the right things. Never doubt yourself, and in your speech, at least don’t show it, otherwise psychological pressure will be used against you. This can certainly be resisted, and I will definitely write about how to do it.

But the most important thing I want to tell you is that there is no one hundred percent guarantee for any communication tactic; they all have their pros and cons. Psychological pressure is, of course, very effective in most cases, but it also happens that it is harmful and does not lead to anything other than a negative attitude towards you and a severance of all ties with you. Therefore, try to look for the most acceptable communication option, appropriate in each specific situation, which is mainly aimed at obtaining a positive result for you.

How often do you think you encounter situations where you are being manipulated? Manipulating means exerting psychological pressure, for example. This may be a lot more common than you think. There are many ways to lead people to necessary solutions, and they will be convinced that they made these decisions themselves. It is useful to know these methods, use them from time to time and not fall for these tricks yourself. Here are some of the most common ways to put psychological pressure on people.

1. Smile

To win over a person, you need to smile at him. Moreover, smile not mechanically, only with your mouth, but also smile with your eyes. Sales agents of network companies specifically in order to increase the level of their sales. The fact is that a sincere smile causes an involuntary smile in response from the opponent, after which it will be quite difficult for him to change his line of behavior.

2. Fork

A person needs to ask questions that cannot be answered “no.” For example, “Is it convenient for you to meet me at ten or twelve?” or “which price suits you better: 570 rubles or 230?”

3. Copy

When entering into a dialogue with a person, after a few minutes of conversation we begin to copy his facial expressions and gestures. He involuntarily begins to think that you are on his wavelength, and also begins to copy. As a result, it will be easier to get the solution you need.

4. Consent

Never argue, this will only anger your opponent and strengthen him in his position. Ideally, you need to listen to your interlocutor, nodding your head and agreeing with him during the conversation; he loses his vigilance, subconsciously perceiving you as a like-minded person, and you unobtrusively offer your solution to the problem.

5. Identifying needs

Here it is important not to be mistaken about what a person really needs. If his need is clear, then you need to present the situation to him in a favorable light: what kind of benefit in solving his problem will he receive from the proposed solution (purchased product).

6. First mover factor

A person is afraid to be the first to do something, so if it comes to buying a product, then you need to convince him (through emotions) that today this product is being torn apart and that he may not get it. Works here herd instinct and the fear of being left out (how is it possible: everyone took it, but I didn’t have time?). Of course, this point can be modified to suit other situations. You cannot persuade here, otherwise the fear of loss factor will not work.

7. Present yourself in a favorable light

It is better to complete this step first if you are meeting a person for the first time or have not seen him for about six months. The saying “You're greeted by your clothes...” works well in life, so people judge you in the first thirty seconds. appearance and style of clothing, then fifteen seconds are assessed for your demeanor and gestures, another fifteen seconds remain for your manner and literacy of speech. The impression you make on a person in the first minute of communication is the most lasting, and it is very important not to ignore this moment.

9. Emotionality of speech

You need to express your position enthusiastically. Moreover, women are more inclined to show emotions than men; accordingly, when communicating with women it is necessary, and with men - vice versa. The greatest effect is obtained if a man communicates with a woman using the language of facial expressions and gestures; she gets the impression that he is a sensitive and understanding person. And vice versa, if a woman communicates with a man with restraint, then he involuntarily develops the opinion that she can be relied on and trusted.

10. Favor

The law of “favor – sense of duty” works among people by default. If you need a person in the future, find a way to become useful to him at least once. Even if it is a trifle, he will still understand that he has a duty.

11. Be next to the person, not in front of them

If a person with whom, say, you are having important negotiations, is on the verge of boiling, take a position next to him, and trouble will bypass you. This way the person will calm down faster, and you will achieve your goal without any problems.

12. Ask for help

If you want to get what you want, address the person like this: “I need your help” or “Besides you, there is no one to help me.” This way, the person you are addressing realizes his importance and, I would even say, uniqueness, so he will immediately begin to solve your problem.

13. Address the person by name

Every person is incredibly pleased to hear his name. So, if you want to get what you want, start your address with the person’s first name and patronymic.

14. Use the words in your monologue: “My father once told me...”

For all of us, parents are the most sacred thing on earth; we treat their life instructions with special trepidation. If you want to continue to successfully pursue your line, tell a story on the topic “My father always said...” - and this will become the final trump card in your favor.

15. Angry Tirade

This technique is usually used by bosses. They unleash an angry tirade on a subordinate, although in reality this is not the emotion they are experiencing. A subordinate in a state of stress begins to actively perform his work, which is what needed to be achieved. True, this technique does not work for weak-willed employees. Anger can completely break them.

16. Appeal to guilt

You can put pressure on a person by making comments about his selfishness, the fact that he has forgotten about you, does not care enough, and the like. The “accused” automatically has a feeling of guilt or shame, and he rushes to fill in the gaps.

These are the main points that need to be taken into account when communicating with other people, which can significantly make your life easier and save you from the possibility of falling under the influence of others.